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Post by ellomeno on Sept 5, 2014 1:33:39 GMT
So have any of you ever used a polyamorous specific dating site? Have you had success with them? Or do you think they're a waste of time? I don't really know where I can go to actually meet other poly people for potential dating. Or do most poly relationships start out as a couple and somewhere down the line you discuss adding a third with your partner?
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Post by esarosa on Sept 5, 2014 1:45:06 GMT
I vaguely remember signing up for one or two specific poly dating sites in a drunk dare state, and filling out profiles, but I never got any responses. (I'm mainly assuming that's because I listed as female in a relationship looking for a 3rd, those seem to have the most difficulty finding anyone else) I do know that the most entertaining ads and responses I've seen have come from Craigslist (not the safest option but certainly interesting).
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Post by Dani on Sept 5, 2014 1:50:57 GMT
It may not be poly specific, but I generally recommend FetLife. There are a lot of poly classified, and people looking to start poly relationships.
Generally, there are also poly meet-ups/socials in a lot of areas. We go to ours a lot and meet new poly people in our area (Many of them looking to date and such).
OkCupid is another dating site, not specifically poly but I've seen a lot of people use it.
Regarding how the relationships start, they develop in a lot of ways. Sometimes as couples opening up or sometimes by people looking for a triad/quad/ect. There isn't really a right way to do it!
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Post by polymike on Sept 5, 2014 2:24:18 GMT
I have heard/seen many use OkCupid. Like Dani said, it isn't poly specific but you can find stuff there. My partner and I tried a poly specific one (I think it was called polyamory date) but it didn't seem all that good. Maybe it was just my experience but I came across a lot of people who only seemed to be looking for sex, and it wasn't necessarily clear that they were in an actual poly relationship. All of that being said, I haven't been on there in a few years, it may have changed.
I would also stress that poly relationships have so many different ways of coming about. Sometimes its just finding someone in your life who you explore the topic with. Sometimes its very intentional, like a dating site, and sometimes it's something in between the two.
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Post by Dallas on Sept 5, 2014 3:46:21 GMT
Fetlife is a good site! It's not a dating site persay, moreso a community/networking site for those of a kinky persuasion, but folks do tend to meet others quite often on there and form relationships. I've been on there for over 5 years now - longest "dating" site I've stuck with! XD
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Post by BlackBird on Sept 5, 2014 13:36:40 GMT
Question: How can you successfully use a dating site if you're not ready to be "out" about your Poly lifestyle to family and co-workers, yet? I think I just answered my own question....
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Post by ellomeno on Sept 8, 2014 2:17:24 GMT
Hey! Thanks for all of the advice! I was on polyamorydate when I posted this, and yeah, it's basically just people looking for quick sex, but I signed up for Fetlife and it looks like there's a pretty active poly group in my area. So I'll be checking them out. Thanks again for the info!
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