esarosa
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Post by esarosa on Sept 6, 2014 0:40:13 GMT
This is for anyone who has multiple partners under the same roof or even within easy driving distance of constant sleepovers.
With Kitten moving in with us in a month or so, Dragon immediately decided he was going to need to create a bedroom sleeping schedule for himself to split between the basement bedroom where I sleep and the main upstairs bedroom where she'll be moving into. Kitten was thoroughly confused, I was amused and agreed, but overall we're not perfectly sure if we're being a little ridiculous or if this is a smart thing to do. Does anyone have any experience or suggestions?
(((Again, major apologies to the admins/mods for putting it in the wrong section initially, I felt like such a dolt)))
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Post by polymike on Sept 6, 2014 16:39:10 GMT
I have also been wondering about this sort of thing. My husband and I have not made it to a point where somebody has moved in but we have been discussing the topic and feel a bit...confused.
I'm sure that a lot of it has to do with each partners' preference but is there something more commonly practiced?
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Post by devomy on Sept 6, 2014 18:49:15 GMT
I'm not sure about common practice, but before he moved, my fiancee's boyfriend lived just up the street from us, and she would regularly spend the night with him. The three of us sat down and talked it out, and settled on an agreement that, since she and I lived together, she and he would pick a day or two where she'd stay with him, and she and I would pick a day or two where she'd stay with me, and the other days were basically up to her to decide. That way, we both got some time with her, but she was still free to spend the night with whoever on the other nights. It also let us adapt to circumstantial situations (him and her being particularly snuggly on one of our nights, so I took an unclaimed one, or something personal coming up so one of us got several nights in a row, things like that).
There were some bumps we had to work out, but overall it seemed to go really well. We're hoping to do something similar when he moves in with us in the next month or so.
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